Grief is one of the most universal human experiences, and one of the most personal. Whether it follows the loss of a loved one, a close friend, or a long-time companion, grief reshapes life in ways we often don’t expect. It can come in waves, or sit silently in the background. It may bring sadness, anger, confusion, or even relief. All of it is normal. All of it is valid.
There is no right way to grieve. Some people find comfort in routine. Others need time, solitude, or connection. What psychologists often recommend is this: allow yourself to feel what you feel. Suppressing emotion can delay healing. Acknowledging grief, on the other hand, creates space for slow, steady restoration.
In times of loss, simple practices can make a difference. Gentle walks, journaling, reaching out to someone you trust, or just getting some sunlight on your face can help. Talking with a counsellor, psychologist, or trusted spiritual advisor can also provide grounding when things feel overwhelming.
In places like Porirua, where whānau, community, and shared values are strong, support can be found in the everyday. A neighbour checking in. A shared meal. A story told in remembrance. These small moments matter. They remind us we are not meant to carry grief alone.
Grieving doesn’t mean forgetting. It means learning to live with love that has taken a different form. And in time, healing doesn’t mean you stop missing someone, it means the pain softens enough to let joy return.
If you are grieving, know this: your loss matters. Your process matters. And help is here, when you’re ready to reach for it.
For support contact:
https://www.griefcentre.org.nz
https://mentalhealth.org.nz/conditions/condition/grief-and-loss
https://northporiruacarecentre.co.nz